I never thought I’d be considering marrying for money. But Katie’s fun, quite attractive and easy company. I met her nearly two years ago on a night out and it was clear she was really interested in me.
She asked me to a concert I hadn’t been able to get tickets to so I was happy to go and she followed that up with a second invitation. She’s not my usual type but within a few dates I knew exactly what her connections were and that changed my mind.
Normally I wouldn’t even have asked her out if I’d known how much older she is than me and keen to settle down – I’m 27 and she’s 39 – but if I told you her surname it would instantly ring a bell.
Katie has her own luxury flat with no mortgage, a substantial trust fund and a clothes shop
Her father’s very high profile and extremely wealthy and it was tempting to see how the other half live. I wasn’t prepared for any of it.
Katie has her own luxury flat with no mortgage, a substantial trust fund and a clothes shop, which is like an extension of her own wardrobe and full of designer gear.
She works when she feels like it, which means popping into the shop a few times a week and chatting to her manager there. The rest of her time is spent looking after herself – going to the gym, getting her hair or nails done and shopping with friends. She’s groomed, toned and very elegant but very low key and doesn’t really flaunt her family’s wealth.
When Katie described her car as a ‘little grey thing’ and then picked me up for a night out in a silver Porsche I started paying attention and realised that while she goes for an understated look in clothes and jewellery, everything is the best quality and price is simply never a consideration.
I pretend her money doesn’t matter to me but it does
It didn’t take long to realise that life is completely different with a wealthy and generous partner. All my previous girlfriends worked and I have a reasonably good job, but there was always those few days at the end of the month when we couldn’t afford to go out or had to juggle the bills.
Katie has had the sort of life most of us can just dream about and although my job as a sales manager earns me a decent salary, it’s never going to get me a huge house and a luxurious lifestyle. Like so many other people I’ve always wanted to write a book but I couldn’t imagine I’d ever have the time or enough money to do so.
I pretend her money doesn’t matter to me and pay for nights out too because I don’t want to be seen as a gold-digger as Katie has had her fair share of them. She knows I didn’t have a clue who she was until a few weeks after we started dating and that reassures her.
If Katie and I got married her parents would buy us a big house as a wedding present and any kids we have would go to a private school – paid for by her dad – and have a great start to life.
This sounds truly awful, but when her parents die Katie and her sister Susy will get the lot
For Christmas, Katie’s main present to me was a ski-ing holiday in France, staying in a luxury hotel in Courchevel 1850, which cost over $40,000. Her other presents were ski gear – not just clothes but skis – a signed first edition of my favourite Harry Potter book and a Cartier watch.
Last year, she took me to New York for my birthday and she’s already talking about going to St Lucia for a summer holiday next year. I’m starting to get used to this sort of lifestyle and I don’t want to do without it.
This sounds truly awful, but when her parents die Katie and her sister Susy will get the lot, and it is a lot. Katie keeps bringing the conversation round to marriage and I’m tempted, especially when she suggested that I could change jobs and take time to write a book. So, I’m really seriously considering marrying for money.
Her idea of the perfect honeymoon would be spending three months going around the world and when I said that I would never be able to take that much leave she suggested taking a break from work for a while and thinking about getting into something I really enjoyed. That’s almost the biggest temptation – my job bores me senseless and trying to make it as a writer without worrying about money would be amazing.
Katie looks good for her age but although she’s nice and safe she’s a little colourless
Recently I went out for a drink with Richard, Katie’s brother in law. He works in finance, but as Grandad pays all the school bills and Susy has her trust fund income his wages are like pocket money.
While we were out we bumped into one of Richard’s colleagues and the two of them obviously got on brilliantly. She’s a stunning looking woman with a great personality and after she left Richard got absolutely pissed and told me that she’s the biggest regret in his life, because he never imagined that he would meet someone like that.
This girl is everything he ever wanted, but there’s no way he would rock the safe boat he’s in just now, not least because he signed a water-tight prenuptial. If he gets caught cheating he gets nothing and I’m sure I’d have to sign something similar.
If I give up Katie to pursue some mystery women and it doesn’t work out what’re the chances of meeting someone this rich again?
If we split up I wouldn’t miss Katie the way I’d miss all the things we do and the life she’s shown me. The sex is ok but not brilliant and my porn habit is already increasing, which is a bit depressing after just a year together, but I could never liven things up by suggesting she watches it with me.
Katie looks good for her age but although she’s nice and safe she’s a little colourless. I know this all makes me sound like a right pig but it’s not that simple. When I meet other women who appear to be great fun or really lively it makes me wonder what I’m missing, but if I give up Katie to pursue some mystery women and it doesn’t work out what’re the chances of meeting someone this rich again?
Luxury makes up for a lot and even after this short time it would be a real wrench to go back to real life.
I go round and round in circles about it and I can’t even ask anyone’s advice, as I think most people I know would be horrified at me.